I’m on a mission to empower people to rewrite the rules of how they show up in relationships, both personally and professionally.

Many successful, intelligent people like you feel disconnected and unhappy in their personal relationships despite their professional achievements.

That’s where I come in.

Through the transformative practice of Hey wait—along with a powerful toolkit of science-backed strategies—I can teach you how to stand solid inside of your life and communicate with clarity and authenticity. This simple yet powerful approach creates a steadier, more emotionally grounded foundation for healthier, more fulfilling connections—even in the hardest conversations.

After over twenty years of teaching, coaching, immersing myself in personal practice and geeking out on research, I’ve created a body of work that can truly help you get out of your own way and be who you are without the self-doubt, self-criticism and the added stress and anxiety.

Sometimes it seems silly and heartbreaking to me that we don’t just naturally know how to do this. But the more experience I’ve developed, the more I’ve come to appreciate just how many odds are stacked against you really being there for yourself and being resilient. There are a whole slew of neurobiological, cultural and relational odds that make it hard for you to turn toward yourself with empathy and to show up as yourself with confidence and integrity in your work and relationships.

Because of that, the approach to learning how to stay with yourself and experience wellbeing has to be interdisciplinary and address your whole self. My work, then, is a blend of mindfulness, embodiment practices and psychological theories from different therapeutic modalities, all approached through the lens of Polyvagal Theory.

In short, Polyvagal Theory is all about how to consciously work with yourself at the level of your nervous system. And because the nervous system so profoundly influences how you behave and the stories you tell yourself about yourself and the world around you, I’ve found that the foundation of any growth process is understanding how to work with your nervous system in a way that is conscious and embodied.

I consider myself an expert at helping you have your own back and care for, trust in and be who you are not because I’m naturally very good at it myself, but because I used to be so very, very bad at it and now I’m pretty damn decent. 

Empathy is my super power. That means I’m awesome at my job because I’m really good at sensing your feelings and experience. It also means that things like setting boundaries, managing big emotions and knowing how to be true to myself around other people have been hard won because my default setting is to orient myself to other peoples’ needs, comfort and thoughts about me.

Who I am is influenced by the professional experiences I’ve had—everything from teaching yoga, working with adjudicated youth in wilderness therapy programs, being a rock climbing guide and a rites of passage guide, and working with thousands of people around the world as a somatic coach and corporate trainer.

Who I am is also influenced by my commitment to my own continual learning and growth, which I’ve sought through over two decades of practicing yoga and meditation and working with therapists and coaches, and a lifetime of reading anything I can get my hands on. Most recently I’ve found the greatest sense of freedom, joy and a connection to something true in myself through a passion for riding motorcycles.

Whoever you are and no matter what you’re searching for personally or professionally, I suspect you’ve figured out by now that getting it isn’t solely a cerebral activity. If it were, you would have already aced it. Because you’re smart and sensitive and, despite being mostly happy with your life, you have some ways that you continually feel tripped up from the inside out despite years of mindfulness practices or therapy, or both.

The good news is you do have the internal resources you need to be who you are and to have a life and work that feels true to you.

When you’re ready to unlock your access to those resources, I'm here to help.

The official bio

Jay Moon Fields, M.A. is a leading educator, coach and author. Nearly a million people have taken her courses featured on LinkedIn Learning, and her book Teaching People Not Poses has sold over ten thousand copies and is used by yoga teacher training programs globally. Her Hey wait framework teaches people how to honor their emotional experiences and share them authentically, helping them to break free from the cycles of overthinking, people-pleasing, and self-doubt.

For over twenty years, Jay has taught the principles and practices of embodied social and emotional intelligence to individuals and groups from Patagonia, Wieden + Kennedy, Apple, the UN, and Baker Tilly. She has been a guest on over 30 podcasts and was named one of the top 50 health and wellness bloggers making a difference in the world by Greatist.com. Jay has been a featured speaker at the GoPro Women’s Summit, The Fifteen Seconds Festival and the Omega Institute. She received her BA in Psychosocial Health and Human Movement from the College of William and Mary and her masters in Integral Transformative Education from Prescott College.