hey, I’m Jay.
I help high-achieving people who fawn and over-function in one-sided relationships become trustworthy to themselves through somatic and nervous system work.
I've worked with thousands of smart, energetically and emotionally sensitive humans who've done all the therapy, read all the books, and still find themselves feeling resentful, disconnected, or like they're secretly the mess in the room. They know better—but when it matters most, they can't do better.
That's where I come in.
Through the transformative "Hey, Wait" framework and my signature course, Yours Truly™, I teach you how to stand solid in your own experience—so you can stop performing and start being real. You'll learn how to work with your nervous system to break free from what you were told makes you "good," and instead become the person you secretly know—and maybe even cherish—yourself to be.
I do this work because I've lived the other way. I've twisted myself up to make other people comfortable. I've stayed quiet to avoid conflict. I've rehearsed comebacks in the shower because I was tongue-tied in the moment. I've undervalued myself in my work and relationships. Believe me when I say—I know how easy it is to get lost trying to be "good."
Like me, you were probably never taught how to be with yourself, especially around other people.
That's why my work goes beyond insight and pulls from somatics, psychology, and Polyvagal Theory—to help you rewire the patterns in your nervous system so you can stop performing and start showing up with empathy, honesty, and a real connection to yourself. Because if you're not working with your nervous system, it's most likely working against the growth you want for yourself.
My approach draws from over two decades of experience teaching yoga, guiding wilderness therapy programs and rock climbing trips, leading rites of passage, training leaders in corporate boardrooms, and coaching thousands of people worldwide. It's also shaped by my lifelong devotion to learning—through two plus decades of yoga, meditation, therapy, coaching, reading just about everything I can get my hands on, and a graduate degree in Integral Transformative Education.
You're smart. You've done the work. And still, something inside keeps getting in your way. Don’t worry—you're not broken. You just haven't found the right tools yet. When you're ready, I'm here to help.
The official bio
Jay Moon Fields, M.A. is a leading somatic coach, educator, and author. Nearly a million people have taken her courses on LinkedIn Learning, and her books include Teaching People Not Poses—used in yoga teacher trainings worldwide—and her newest release, Less Lost, which guides readers to leave behind should’s and supposed to’s and find their way home to themselves. Her Hey, Wait framework teaches people to honor their emotional experiences and share them authentically, breaking free from cycles of overthinking, people-pleasing, and self-doubt.
For over twenty years, Jay has taught embodied social and emotional intelligence to individuals and groups including Patagonia, Wieden + Kennedy, Apple, the United Nations, and Baker Tilly. She's been a guest on over 50 podcasts, named one of the top 50 health and wellness bloggers making a difference in the world by Greatist.com and a featured speaker at the GoPro Women's Summit, The Fifteen Seconds Festival, and the Omega Institute. She holds a BA in Psychosocial Health and Human Movement from the College of William and Mary and a master's in Integral Transformative Education from Prescott College. She lives in California with her husband and the cat who decided she was theirs.